The Experiment- Assignment 1
“I am loving this experiment” - mom of 11-year-old with recurring explosive behavior
”This experiment is making me realize there is more to behavior that just the child”- mom of 4-year-old with challenging behavior
One of the most powerful ways of creating change in your child’s behavior is by creating space for new dynamics in your relationship— you create that space by releasing all of the old, stuck energies (emotions).
Last week I lead several moms through something I called The Experiment. It was a challenge I guided in a way I never had before. It was really 3 days of one-on-one coaching via Voxer.
Many women missed out on joining The Experiment because they missed the deadline to join. Because the women who did participate received such incredible insights from the first two written assignments, I wanted to share those with you. These were just a small part of The Experiment. The larger part was the personalized coaching I was guided to give each mom based on the intuitive nudges I received from God/Universe/Source.
You can actually create behavior change (in your child) through your own focus, intention, and energy, and here's some help in doing just that:
Part 1:
Write the story. The story of your child related to:
> Your child's diagnosis (if there is one),
> His/her behavior
> How you r.e.a.l.l.y feel about your child (your raw, unedited, unfiltered feelings)
> How you feel about your child's behavior (again raw and unedited)
> How challenging, hard, frustrating, infuriating, difficult (and whatever other words you've used MANY times) to inwardly (your thoughts) and outwardly (your words) describe what it's like to parent this child
Do. Not. Hold. Back.
Write about any and all anger, rage, guilt, sadness, grief, resentment, bitterness, and the like.
Are you angry about the fact that others moms can (fill in the blank) and you can’t because your child (fill in the blank)?
Are you resentful that other moms can (fill in the blank) and you can’t?
The more RAW emotion you can feel and express, the better.
No one will read this but you, so please, PLEASE, be as honest and as raw as possible.
DO NOT JUDGE, just write.
DO NOT EDIT, just write.
Get it ALL out. And if you feel any tears come, LET THEM FLOW. (I know when CAPS are used, it connotes yelling, but I’m not yelling. LOL)
I'm simply passionate about you getting all of your thoughts and feelings on paper and OUT of your body-- which brings us to part 2.
Part 2:
Get out any anger, frustration, sadness, grief, resentment, etc., that comes through your writing, in the way your body tells you to. Maybe you need to weep, while beating your hands on the floor. Maybe you need to run through the woods. Naked? OK! Maybe you need to hold yourself or ask someone to hold you. Or scream into a pillow. Or swim in the ocean. Or dance your ass off to some raw, expressive music. Let your body speak to you about how it needs to release, and do it. Do it with love, compassion, and honoring of yourself as the mom your child chose to take this journey with.